Managing Stress and Anxiety

Am I stressed? Or is this anxiety?

In both cases, the underlying mechanism is your fear response.

Stress is your reaction to some external threat that you can identify, that places you under pressure.

Whereas anxiety is your mind and body’s reaction to stress – characterised by excessive and persistent worries, that linger long after the initial stress has passed.

Why can’t I just relax?

If you’re reading this page, perhaps you’re already aware of the “fight or flight” mechanism designed to step in and take over from your “thinking brain”, placing you in ‘autopilot’ to keep you safe (originally perhaps from a large bear or a sabretooth tiger!)

At the heart of this mechanism is your amygdala, a remarkable part of your primitive brain that is constantly vigilant in scanning for potential danger – and passing this information directly to your hippocampus, which checks against innate memories of your past experiences to decide whether to release a cascade of hormones to help your body deal with the threat.

And this is where your anxiety can be so challenging. By the time your brain ‘catches up’ to the discomfort, intense arousal, and hypervigilance – it can feel impossible for you to regain control.

At worst, this can result in (what is commonly referred to as) a “panic attack”, whereby your nervous system becomes so overwhelmed, you are unable to cope with the intensity of the physical and emotional experience.  These can be particularly distressing, often creating intense physical sensations that can feel frightening and confusing.

However, anxiety isn’t always this acute.

What “type” of anxiety do I have?

You may be experiencing ‘Generalised Anxiety’, where you find yourself worrying about many different aspects of your life, and your inability to predict or control what’s happening to you.

You may be intensely fearful of being embarrassed, dismissed or judged by others – a form of social anxiety. Perhaps this is so intense for you that you now avoid any situation that could expose you to this perceived threat.

Sometimes severe anxiety can be result from a compelling, irrational fear of a specific trigger or situation – anything from cats to enclosed spaces, tall buildings, even sounds and colours!

Of course, if you experience any of these forms of anxiety for long enough, chances are you’re going to become exhausted at the struggle to find ways to cope. You may even become depressed.

How will counselling help?

Seeking support for anxiety does not mean something is ‘wrong’ with you. It reflects a willingness to better understand yourself and make meaningful changes

Whether you experience a constant sense of worry, moments of intense panic, or simply feel that your mind rarely switches off, counselling can provide a safe space to understand what is happening and develop practical ways to regain a sense of calm and control.

What’s the best approach for me?

As you might expect, each form of anxiety is quite different, and experienced in very different ways by different people. Whilst there is no “right way” to approach counselling, there are some important steps on the journey.

Our goal is to build confidence in facing feared situations, strengthen resilience during periods of uncertainty and stress, and perhaps most importantly – reconnect you with personal values and priorities

  • Step 1

    The 1st step is to learn and master some ‘first-aid’ skills, that you can apply straight away to interrupt that cycle of anxiety, manage your difficult thoughts and emotions, and calm your nervous system. Some lead with the body, some lead with the mind – and different techniques work for different people. Our goal is to find what works for you.

  • Step 2

    The 2nd step is to become acutely aware of the origins of your anxiety. This requires a deep understanding of what may have happened to you, how did you interpret this situation or event, your triggers and maintaining factors, your patterns of avoidance and safety behaviours. What is your brain is trying to protect you from, and why?

  • Step 3

    The 3rd step is to explore different evidence-based strategies put you back in control and suppress your anxiety. This is determined by the nature of the anxiety, tailored to your life experience, personality, values and strengths (see examples in “Approaches’)

  • Support

    Confidential, professional and supportive care

  • Locations

    Mona Vale & St Ives, Sydney
    and online across Australia

  • Contact Us

    hello@counsellingpartners.com.au


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